Step-momming is HARD ya'll! I talk to Step-moms all the time who struggle with all kinds of complexities. From dealing with a challenging ex, to behavioral issues with the kids that seem impossible to solve because people aren't on the same page, to differences in parenting styles with their partners, to financial burdens, custody issues, and more - regardless of what the specifics are, the complexities are similar.
Things I hear from Step-moms:
"I feel so bad that I don't look forward to the kids coming over"
"I don't know how much to insert myself and how much to let go of"
"My husband is constantly talking with his ex and it makes me feel crazy"
"The ex causes constant drama and I hate seeing my husband go through what he has to go through"
" The kids have no responsibility and it makes me feel crazy"
Are just a few of the things I hear.
Step-moms have a hard time feeling like other people understand what they are going through. They're mom friends don't quite get it, their single friends definitely don't get it, and there's a lot of outside pressure and expectations that they feel burdened by.
Here's a place that they can come to get connected to other Step-moms with similar challenges. You would be surprised how often I hear similar stories of how Step-moms are feeling.
Turns out you're not crazy and you're not alone in your experience.
If you're a Step-mom, struggling with some of these challenges or others, and are confused about why you are having such a hard time, here are some ways you can get connected and educate yourself about your role! The more you know, the more empowered you can become.
The Step-mom Strong Podcast:
a podcast featuring Relationship Experts, Parenting Experts, & Self-Care experts and their input on blended family life. check it out here
My Free Step-mom Strong Facebook Group Be sure to answer all the entry questions to be allowed in (so I know you're not a bot!)
5 Weekly Virtual Sessions Tuesdays at 5pm-6:30pm EST starting June 7th
* Mindfulness/self-compassion stress-reducing practices each week
* Trainings to support you to better manage/navigate this often complicated role!
* Group discussion
🦸♀️Get face-to- face with other Stepmamas who UNDERSTAND your journey!
😂🤪😭🙏 Laugh, vent, cry, & get Unstuck from places/ mindsets that aren't supporting you in your blended family life.
Now is the time to make sure you're getting the support you need.
This pandemic has been hard on mental health, relationship health, parenting! Give yourself a weekly refreshment by joining this support group. It will seriously leave you feeling rejuvenated, heard, loved, supported, and like you've unloaded some burdens. I am so excited to facilitate this group for you! Not only do I come with my own share of Stepmom stressors and figuring out how to deal, but I'm also a licensed counselor and certified stepfamily coach. Can't wait to get started!
Here's what group members will get:
* Virtual group meetings weekly w/ other Stepmamas
* Weekly modules related to overcoming Step-mom challenges including: boundary-setting, defining your role, how to deal with the Ex, healthy step-couple basics, self-care as a Step-mom, connecting with your Step-kids, and more based on the groups need...
* The experience of being seen, heard, supported, in a non-judgmental space by people who GET it
* A voxer group - a group chat app that allows you to connect in between sessions both through audio messages and text messages.
* My personal and professional input, when helpful, as a bio- mom to 2, step-mom to a 12 year old boy, licensed counselor and certified Step-family coach!
What Step-moms are saying about participating in past groups:
"The Step Mom Strong support group gave me skills to be able to build a relationship with my stepson. It gives me a place to turn when i need advice and things get hard. Ladies who understand the struggle. Nathalie was a life/relationship saver. I couldn't be happier that i joined her group!"
-Amanda, Stepmom to 10 year old boy
"I can tell stepmom's who haven't had this experience that it's so worth it! Nathalie is the person who put me on the path I've been following the past couple years. She taught me that a lot of the expectations I thought were on me, I was putting on myself. There's a lot of love and support - but also some straight-talk, no BS reminders that more often than not, we alone are responsible for the state of our lives!" - Charlene, Step-mom to ages 8 and 11
"Each week, we focused on different aspects of ourselves and how to bring back boundaries and personal needs...things I hadn't even considered since I joined my blended family. Who was I before? What mattered to me? It is OK to retain those things while loving this new situation. So much of what was said made me appreciate my blended family (including my partner's ex) and gave me the tools to negotiate myself within my current situation. I'm amazed how often I say "In step mom class they said...." Nathalie created that! I'd do any of it again!" - Alex , Step-mom to a 12 year old girl and 13 year old boy
There will be a limit of 10 participants so register ahead of time if you know you want to attend! We're going to have first-come, first-serve registration for the first two months, and then I'll be sending out a survey to see how we want to proceed - whether or not folks are feeling like a commitment would create a better container.
To find out about how we could work together, or what might be the best course of action for you and your blended family, feel free to schedule a free 15 minute phone consultation by clicking here.